@Omgitsjessi720: that's one, and i make two. I know i hav e been dumped by many ladies, and even dudes i just wanted to chit chat with, and it didn't take any skin off my butt. Like i said, rejection is a given on a dating site, tha just has to be accepted, and not taken personally. Attraction is a funny thing, and most times, people aren't attracted to a certain type of category whether it be appearance based or personality based. People just gotta take it with a grain of salt, and move on.

oh yea I forgot to do a lil butt kissing of my own....I love your posts and enjoy reading YOUR pov too!

I don't make such accusations lightly, but JLaDawn is outright lying through her teeth by stating that this current situation is "EXACTLY" like the previous one she keeps harking back to. I don't feel the need to defend my past actions, as my conscious is clear and that matter has long since been closed. However, just to show you how misleading and deceptive JLaDawn is being by drawing comparisons while not telling the whole story, here is a picture of this "friend" JLaDawn herself "accidentally" uploaded to her profile after giving him access to the site through her account even though she knew he was banned. That one, single image perfectly illustrates the problems with authority that previous user had that lead to a breakdown in trust and a permanent ban due to repeated and calculated violations of the rules that directly resulted in new rules that impacted the freedom of completely innocent users. Did I take action on JLaDawn for being complicit in allowing a banned user back on the site? No, she too got off with a warning at the time, something she conveniently leaves out of her narrative. In fact, during all that drama, she specifically asked me to remove a thread that contained my accusations against her so as to not hurt her chances of finding love here, a request I had never received before from anyone. Did I comply, even though I was under no obligation to do so? Yes, because regardless of any personal misgivings a user might have, I'm here to help others find love. Did she ever question those two freebies she happened to get? Of course not. So she can try to be as deceptive as she wants, but the magnitude, depth, and breadth of the two matters are not comparable at all. She knows it, yet is being willfully deceptive because her character is currently being (rightfully and deservedly) assassinated and she is desperately grasping at straws.

So, Sammy2, I hope this give you a small glimpse of how the two matters aren't even in the same galaxy, let alone ball park. :)

@Sammy: yes I did ask Andres to remove the thread that HE the site owner called me names just as he is doing now. He at that time called me a disrespectful dramaqueen because I said that my 24 hour dunce had in fact been much longer (which is true). And to my knowledge myself and the other member dunced that night are the ONLY ones to ever experience this 'bug' he made the statement that that was "not possible" thus giving the impression that I was in addition a liar. In that thread Andres categorically stated that it was in fact impossible for him to manually manipulate dunces, in fact he provided a link to the forum software manual to back that statement up, yet I have since seen where he 'manually manipulated' dunces in a post to win cupid credits contest. And I did in fact accidently upload a picture of Rich that he had sent me flipping off A SPECIFIC USER, my phone doesnt show pics when I am uploading, just the number of the file.. I HAVE NOT EVER called Andres a name or hoped that he wld go drown himself in ANYTHING. I HAVE rather asked that he discontinue disrespecting his members by showing double standards. And I stand behind those statements till this day. I did tell my friend NEVER to sign onto my account if indeed that was him that did so and he has never since done so. I hope that this might clarify things just a bit.

@Andres: glad to know that i ain't the only one that feels this way about it.

I invite ANYONE to read any and all posts that I have made....read for yourself where I was a disrepectful dramaqueen that deserves to drown in my own self-righteousness. The link Andres provided where he tells Ram why he cant come back was copied from Rams own thread that got deleted where many many users asked that he be allowed to return as well...I don't have the ability to delete at will so what you see is what you get with me. I was previously LaDawn1974.

If you dont like the way he runs his site you can 1. Leave the site 2. Just deal with it. Lifes not fair or 3. Make your own site

@Andres: and see, here we fnd ourselves way off topic. Unless the topic is individuals being a pet peeve needing removal. Lol jk. Anyway, this is also a perfect example of how my idea would be optimal sir. See, if this was my thread, (which it isn't, but lets say it is for arguements sake), then the only problem here would be gone right from the beginning sir. This arguement between the two of you would not be capable of existing. Just saying.

Sir, one of two things needs to happen, and although i hate her guts, i don't truly wish bad upon anyone, and do not want her to leave. Besides, without her, where would my rival be :+) (that ones for you jladawn) And, the good thing is she attracts the hater croud, and luckily, they clique up...

So, eventually, and probably rapidly, no one will talk to them besides other haters, an they will slowly start to hate on eachother, beating them from the inside. Then they will most likely drop like flies. That, or attract a whole other fan base group altogether, and make you grow even more exponentially...