It all depends on what life style u want to live. I had two step kids and being a step parent isnt easy nor is it for everyone. But u are better off knowing rite of the bat then 1yr n to a relationship.

@dan I agree with u on that, being a step parent does have its challenges. I was a step mother for 10 yrs to 2 children, i also had my 2, what i noticed was i had to EARN their love its not like being a mom and the love comes naturally. So on that point i completely agree. But as hard as it was, i loved my step kids and treated them as my own and they still call me mama to this day. (well 1 of them do, lol)

Yeah the girl and i got along but i had to prove my love and respect the boy and i got along but he felt quilty when he and i would go do things together. But they new i wasnt tryin to b there dad. But thats never a role to take litely but most do.

@Briteeyes1211: You've clearly missed my point completely. You're being judgemental & ignorant, you have no right to call somebody selfish just because their lifestyle is different to yours or they don't agree with you.

I didnt say YOU were selfish, i said IT was selfish (to think like that) This thread was made by a young single mother who needs help and advice, she dont need to hear how her children are a burden and is going to complicate her relationships. Think about someone else here, put urself in her shoes. This young lady is like so many others, and i for one as a mother support single moms and single dads, i dont tell them their children is why they are single. So im not being judgemental, im a mother myself!!! Have respect! And if u read all my post u can CLEARLY see where i state how difficult being a step parent is. I was a step mother so i am aware of the good and the bad of me having kids and him having kids.

And exactly who are you anyway?? No verified pic, no verified #.....and an empty profile, i wont waste anymore of my time. Thanks

It feels like everything I've said has been twisted or taken the wrong way. I posted to this thread because I thought maybe my feelings & experiences would help to explain why guys switch off when they find out she has a child & because I wanted her to know that just because somebody doesn't want a relationship with somebody with children it doesn't mean they're a bad person or they're not good enough, it just means that they want different things in life.