Nigerians will be meeting, marrying and entering countries, politics, histories and individuals with their own upbringings and backgrounds so just as the foreigner will face these challenges with you, how will you face them? If it's serious true love you seek then that foreigner and the life you build with them should be also. This is the reality of it. Otherwise, it will always be messy immigration issues that globally push people apart, because marriage was only for the reasons listed in my introduction and will produce temporary results.

For u to judge ,u must get involve in the case or be a witness/false witness.all the same "what they think is not what we thought"

Chijion, Im so tired of people trying not to understand what I say or do. So please, dont. Im definitely not judging here. Im trying to only discuss the truth and facts. If you really want to know, fine. Before I started receiving lots of spam emails, I was trying for love and marriage openly. Race, etc was not a concern. I am not ashamed of trying either. Just like I wasnt ashamed to join here. I have tried this with an Indian and a Nigerian man. Cultures and values were not the issues as they are somewhat similar. Everything boiled down to misunderstandings, stereotyping, and sorry to say...scamming. Because I was taken advantage of by the Nigerian guy...for money. I guess that was more important to him than any Visa huh? And so, he is still in Nigerian and surely with the money spent. It didnt make me hate Nigerians or I would not have done this

thread and Im certainly not against marrying a Nigerian but if all he needs are quick fixes...nothing substantial and to vent his frustrations and angers on the person who is willing to also support and love him no matter what, then yes, I will judge it for what it's worth and wont waste any time or emotion on it. So again, my question is, just as you would select a woman to marry in your own country what do you look for from a foreign woman and what do you intend to give and be to her?

@CHIJION: I've noticed you like to accuse people of "judging" alot. Can you please point out where anyone has been judgemental? Just like in one of your threads this morning you claimed I was being judge and defendant. Do you mind explaining to me how? You make no sense to me.

@JustMeAndYou77: am really sorry for what d nigerian guy did... there are still responsible Nigerians in n outside Nigeria, its just a pity that the few greedy ones have put a dent on the green white green(NIgeria flag colour).whichever way on behalf of the Nigerian people I say we are sorry for what dat Nigerian guy did. Long live Nigeria cos am proud to be one.

Hi there :) It wasnt entirely his fault I got scammed. It was mine because of the way I went about it. He couldnt have scammed me without my help lol So that's why I cant just get mad and discriminate. Instead, like going into any relationship I have learned to apply caution and a bit of realism. I can be taken just as easily by an American guy also. I explained the situation to Chijion because he always thinks he's being judged which I can understand but duhhh, lol, Im not judging him. Just want realer more meaningful responses. Not a poetry session when love doesnt remotely happen that quickly for those who are worlds a part.

@JustMeAndYou77: I get ur point miss... and i understand Chijin's reaction d truth is distance love isn't easy, as u rightly stated.dif in culture, human values etc. it only takes mature minded people to make it work...still u bin scammed isn't ur fault u were only bin sincere if u had falling into the right hands won't u be glad u did what u did? miss just apply little caution and never stop bin d sinere person u are... be good

@JustMeAndYou77: I can give all i have to any woman foreign/local only if i will get all i need from her [LOVE].Luv is just like a game,we play without hunting 4 a medal

@JustMeAndYou77: I understood U,but u try and understand me that not every one that claime to be a NIGERIAN are 9jarians,some fake it