What is your best advice, you have learned...
" what NOT to do, in a romantic relationship or marriage?

NEVER, get married on a holiday.
I have seen this many times. Each couple thought it was romantic. All are divorced now.. Except two women, who married on Thanksgiving and are now both Widows.

Think million times before u decided to get married..

Lol what about that old saying dont buy the cow if the milk is free

Thought about this for a while..isnt really a "what not to do"... But something ive learned, is that every relationship is gonna have rough times, you just have to find someone that makes thoes times worth it.

@Aus3nb: Good point. My best relationships,(5-15 yrs) all started out as "friendships".. The lust, romantic ones, love at 1st site ones... Crashed & burned quickly. I think with " true" friendships, we " respect " them first. Which makes it more difficult to screw them over, because you actually "cared", before you seen them naked.

I have heard this from a few women, 3 were married 1 was a widow. KEEP ALL YOUR OWN STUFF. That way if it does not work you are fine, or for bumpy times you have a place to go, and if all is well, rent it out for extra cash. From now on i will use this as one of my laws to live by rules.

@IllinoisLady: I live by it. Always will. Seen too many people loose too much, if not all.

3days ago: my neighbor knocked on my door crying, asking for food & an air mattress for her 2kids, both under six. Her boyfriend left, took all HIS things. Now, she has absolutely nothing! Including a home.
*but still believes "true love", will fix it all* smfh

@Zilya777: I honestly don't believe in TRUE LOVE. What a joke. Different ppl work at different times. Relationships are about motives, what a person wants and needs.

Don't die w/ out a WILL !
Especially, if you know you are going to soon.
My poor sister :-( . As if she didn't suffer enough. She begged him to. But no. His own brother begged him to sign it.... Now, she has to fight his mom & HIS kids...legally. All, because, he didn't want his MOMMY angry with him!
What a big 50 year old 'mama's boy' ! To put his wife last. I'm so p*ssed off, I can't see straight!
Oddly enough, this same damn thing happened to our mom, with her 3rd husband. *Widowed 3 times!*
Now, both these women are relying on help from family.