UPDATE: When should I [34f] tell him [42M] I want to try again (willing to move), and how?

Original post here.
About a week ago I wrote my ex a long, heartfelt letter laying everything out there. By yesterday, I hadn't heard back, and didn't expect to so soon given the contents; but I had started to apply for jobs near him and things were moving faster than I anticipated in that department, so I texted him to ask if he had read my email, and indicated that the job search was really under way.
He got back to me that evening, saying that he thinks too much has happened/there's been too much damage, but that he thinks fondly upon the amazing time we had together, and that he hopes we can be friends once he has had time to heal more. While he initiated the break-up, it's been more difficult for him to talk to me. I told him I would respect that and go no-contact until he indicated he was ready to be friends. And I expressed much remorse and much gratitude, and wished him well. I cried a bunch of tears, but some of them were of relief. I had some clarity, I knew I had given it my all, I had spilled my heart out, and left nothing unsaid. For that alone I feel a great weight has been lifted, and I am proud of myself for having the courage to do it, in the face of poor odds, just because it aligned with my values...and I didn't let pride or shame keep me from it.
Gratitude is the most important thing you can express to someone after a break-up. A close second is regret over the mistakes you made, and apologizing for the pain you caused. But gratitude has made it possible for me to remain good friends with my ex of 8.5 years whose heart I broke, and hopefully with this ex who broke mine, someday. Thanks to everyone for their feedback. I feel lighter and optimistic about the future.
TL;DR: I wrote to my ex, it didn't change the outcome but we both feel better having expressed gratitude to each other. And I feel much better having spoken my truth.


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