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Bf(28m) thinks I(25f) am too affectionate, requested to tone down. I did and now I feel helpless. (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
14-Feb-19 2:51 am
Bf(28m) thinks I(25f) am too affectionate, requested to tone down. I did and now I feel helpless.

BG: BF and I have been together for 6 months.
I am usually the affectionate one and I like to kiss him a lot, on the cheeks and lips. The times I do that is when we cuddle, or when he is gaming on his table, I pass by and I give him a few pecks. I am just happy to be around him.
Then one day he was mentioning to me how I am really clingy and constantly demands attention. I do not think a moment of kiss = full attention. He suggest that I should tone it down a bit and let "kissing" be more of an occasional thing. He also said that I've been kissing him constantly and it doesn't feel special anymore.
I understand so I obliged. I did mention it to him that even if I tone down, he is not going to give me attention at all, he say its not true.
Then lately I've tone down everything and I feel upset and lifeless. I don't' feel cherished or cared for from him. I do take care of myself and I try to distract myself by cleaning and sorting out my old stuff. It feels great tidying things, but he never once check out on me. The only time he came up was to discuss with me about dinner and food.
Even during dinner times we spent time together and I am the only one trying to talk about random stuff and interesting information. He only listen to half of what I said, and I stopped talking to him after that. He rather sit in another room with his phone and scroll on social media.
This morning when i was getting ready to work, I didn't even exchange a word with him. I don't want to be annoying and I don't know what is the safe ground to be appropriate for him to pay attention to me.
My question is: Am I reacting too emotionally? Is it normal to be distant like that.
TLDR: Boyfriend of 6 months thinks I am too affectionate , request I tone down the level of affection. I did but he did not put in any effort to make me feel better. I don't know what hes thinking and I don't know what to do.
Edit: I didn't expect that much of an input, thanks for everyone's suggestions and comments. For people who are saying that we are incompatible, is because we are still learning to navigate our own ways to understand each other. To me, compatibility is an achievement, and it should not be a precondition. I will try to have a talk with him and come to an understanding later tonight. Thanks.
PS. presentation was successful, thanks for the encouragement :)


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