UPDATE: My (19F) boyfriend's (20M) mom asked me to break up with him. When I said no, she asked us never to see each other until the pandemic is over because she hopes we break up before then

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...e_to_break_up/
I showed my boyfriend the post and he clarified a few things for me:

1. His mom has never interfered with his personal life until me. She believes that you can look at a person's background, especially their mistakes or flaws, and judge whether they're "good" or "bad." Because my dad is in prison and my mom had me as a teenager, his mom truly believes I'll ruin his life.
2. He didn't ask his mom to visit me, but told her.

After showing him the post, we had a talk about where our relationship was going in the future. It seemed the general consensus that his relationship with his mom is unhealthy really got through to him. I voiced my concerns about not seeing him as well as what this issue would look like for when we decide to live together (we have plans for the summer). He told me he just wants to keep the peace at home and was thinking long-term. I told him we have to think about our happiness now because I wasn't sure how long I could wait. After a few moments of silence, he decided that he would see me every other week like we planned. He couldn't let his mom interfere this much. He had to stop being so afraid of what she would say, forsaking his actual wants.
Later that night, he told his mom that while he respected her, he will visit me. His mom was angry, talked about how much she hated me, and adamantly told him to just leave and move-in with me. He wasn?t sure if she was serious, but the next morning, she continued to tell him to pack up and leave. It seemed to him that his mom had a change of heart by the time he was out the door, but he left anyway.
Now, he is with me at my apartment and found a place to live about a 20 minute walk away. We had another serious conversation about the direction we were headed from here and made plans to move in together in the spring. He believes he permanently altered his relationship with his mom, but doesn't regret his choice and hopes that things will improve in the next few years. We've begun to talk about boundaries when it comes to his mom and how I can be protected in the future.
TL;DR my boyfriend left his home and we're going to move in together. He hopes his mom will start to live for herself while he lives his life independently


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