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The level of his [31/M] betrayal, is warping my mind [25/F]. Did I overreact? (by Sparky)
The level of his [31/M] betrayal, is warping my mind [25/F]. Did I overreact?
This is a very long winded story, but I?ll skip to the major details.
I dated my ex for a little over a year. We broke up almost 2 months ago, but spent the last two months still sort of ?casually dating? and trying to work it out.
When we first started dating, he said briefly that there was a married girl at work (she?s 36) who kept throwing herself at him, and he said he wasn?t into her. He said she basically stalked him and acted crazy, showed up to his place unannounced, etc. I came to find out later, he actually entertained the girl more than he let on. They bought tickets to a sex toy convention together.
Throughout our whole relationship, I saw many red flags. There was another engaged girl who he was talking to every day. He ended up cutting her off for me after I threatened to break up with him if he didn?t stop talking to her. The girl?s messages to him were flirtatious and she would send him (non sexual) pic of herself.
One day he left his phone unlocked while he was in the shower. I didn?t look through it. But when he came out of the shower, he flipped on me asking if I looked through it. Telling me ?if you saw something in there that upsets you, admit it now instead of later.? I said ?I didn?t look through it but now I think I should have. You?re literally admitting you?re hiding something.? He said ?no, here you go being insecure again.?... well, months later, he left the phone unblocked again and I went through it. Found out, he had exchanged pictures with a girl. There was a girl sprawled out in bed (with clothes on) in a sexy position, with a sexy look on her face. He sent a selfie back to her (him in bed, just his face)...... I never confronted him until this past week on it because I knew he would attack me for looking through the phone. He deleted the conversation that went along with the photos.
He told me the girl was a friend from college and they just ?hadn?t talked for a while?, and just as I predicted- Told me I was horrible for looking through the phone. Between this, and seeing him pop up in a pic on Instagram feed with the married girl, (and I had hooked up with him the night before), I went completely nuclear. I messaged the married girl, I messaged the engaged girl, I messaged the engaged girl?s fianc?, and I posted on social media saying that he cheated on me with these married girls.
Now obviously he blocked me on everything now. All his coworkers saw what i posted. Did I go too far?
TLDR; I exposed my ex and I?ll probably never hear from him again now. Did I go too far?
Update: omgah, thank you everyone for your supportive message and everything. I feel better reading it! I?ve been through the mill.
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This is a very long winded story, but I?ll skip to the major details.
I dated my ex for a little over a year. We broke up almost 2 months ago, but spent the last two months still sort of ?casually dating? and trying to work it out.
When we first started dating, he said briefly that there was a married girl at work (she?s 36) who kept throwing herself at him, and he said he wasn?t into her. He said she basically stalked him and acted crazy, showed up to his place unannounced, etc. I came to find out later, he actually entertained the girl more than he let on. They bought tickets to a sex toy convention together.
Throughout our whole relationship, I saw many red flags. There was another engaged girl who he was talking to every day. He ended up cutting her off for me after I threatened to break up with him if he didn?t stop talking to her. The girl?s messages to him were flirtatious and she would send him (non sexual) pic of herself.
One day he left his phone unlocked while he was in the shower. I didn?t look through it. But when he came out of the shower, he flipped on me asking if I looked through it. Telling me ?if you saw something in there that upsets you, admit it now instead of later.? I said ?I didn?t look through it but now I think I should have. You?re literally admitting you?re hiding something.? He said ?no, here you go being insecure again.?... well, months later, he left the phone unblocked again and I went through it. Found out, he had exchanged pictures with a girl. There was a girl sprawled out in bed (with clothes on) in a sexy position, with a sexy look on her face. He sent a selfie back to her (him in bed, just his face)...... I never confronted him until this past week on it because I knew he would attack me for looking through the phone. He deleted the conversation that went along with the photos.
He told me the girl was a friend from college and they just ?hadn?t talked for a while?, and just as I predicted- Told me I was horrible for looking through the phone. Between this, and seeing him pop up in a pic on Instagram feed with the married girl, (and I had hooked up with him the night before), I went completely nuclear. I messaged the married girl, I messaged the engaged girl, I messaged the engaged girl?s fianc?, and I posted on social media saying that he cheated on me with these married girls.
Now obviously he blocked me on everything now. All his coworkers saw what i posted. Did I go too far?
TLDR; I exposed my ex and I?ll probably never hear from him again now. Did I go too far?
Update: omgah, thank you everyone for your supportive message and everything. I feel better reading it! I?ve been through the mill.
Source.
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