I 22[F] feel uncomfortable when my [34M] boyfriend gets whiny when I don?t give him head.

My boyfriend is very thoughtful towards me, and sweet most of the time.
But when he?s horny he gets so aggressive. Grabbing me and dry ******* me and moaning in my ear immediately! He says he loves the sex and blowjobs he gets from me, that it?s my fault I?ve made him a ?crackhead? for it.
I usually oblige, I love giving head and pleasing my man, but he will just come into the room or wake me up in the morning so forcefully. Pulling my shirt or sticking his hand down my pants to grab my butt constantly! I decided to say no one day, and he got all huffy and puffy and turned away from me. It felt disrespectful because I receive less than I give. I?ve been giving him head every other day if not everyday since we began dating over a year ago.
The worst is the whining. I was trying to look up and see if this happens to other women, when I tell him not right now or I?m not in the mood he keeps persisting and gets super whiny about it. Which is a big turn off for me. I don?t know how to communicate that he?s too aggressive, the times I have he says things like ?You always look so good how could you not expect me to not want have sex with you all the time?. The sex is never gentle, it?s always very aggressive. I like it sometimes but other times I want to be kissed and have it slow. Or touch me first to warm me up. He?ll do it a little bit then never again. I think he ignores my body language and definitely ignores when I say not right now.
How do I communicate I want a more thoughtful sex life?
TL;DR boyfriend is too aggressive sometimes and it?s turning me off to want to please him and get excited during sex.


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