Update: my(33) wife (F27) is snapping her co worker

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...tm_name=iossmf
First off, thanks to those that gave thoughtful responses, and thanks to those who educated me about snap chat and getting the data exported.
I exported the data and it checks out with her story. She and him had barely had contact. Also, I had her redownload (20 hours after his original snap) the app and there were no emojis by his name. I also checked the phone records and she has never called him.
We have talked extensively and I?m pretty convinced she felt like something looked bad and sorta shut down when I started asking questions, getting nervous. Hence, the parade of ?I don?t know?s.?
Her cheating just didn?t add up. She was always affectionate and loving. Plus, and this might be TMI (she had hairy as **** legs). People when they are cheating or sleeping with someone new tend to exhibit behavior like grooming or making themselves up more than they used to. I seriously doubt she would be sleeping with someone new yet not shave her legs for like awhile. We are both so busy recently we have just been go go go. She works two jobs, and I started work as an attorney just a couple months ago. It?s been hard and we?ve been romantic but sex has been less than normal. We are going on a romantic date this weekend to re-spice things up.
Also to those being ***** about me being an attorney, I?m a corporate lawyer. I don?t make a living cross-examining people. Still, I think I handled things quite logically. The main advice I DO wish I took from commenters is that I should have not acted immediately when I saw the snap. It would have been more beneficial (especially if there was cheating) for me to watch and wait and not let her know I noticed something. Sometimes emotions get the better of judgment.
Again, thank you to those that gave thoughtful and helpful comments about how to proceed. I?m grateful it was much ado about nothing. Obviously she should?ve told me the guy hit on her in the past but we are working past that. I think if she hadn?t shut down and been elusive with ?I don?t knows? this would have been resolved pretty easily. It?s not like I become angry or super interrogative. I asked some questions, and her elusiveness caused things to accelerate. It was a spark that kindled a fire of suspicion.
Thanks everyone who is measured in their responses to posts in this community.
TL;DR: I checked the records and my wife?s story checks out. No cheating, but we have discussed boundaries about snap chat, being upfront about inappropriate behavior of co workers, and honesty.


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