UPDATE: I (28f) HATE my boyfriend's (34m) hobby

So it has been 9 months since I posted in here (link to the original). I got some good advice, which I mostly ignored, but I thought it deserved an update anyway-despite the fact that it got little attention.
The basis of my previous post was that my boyfriend was addicted to Magic: The Gathering. He constantly wanted me to come to tournaments with him and watch him play even though I had no interest in the game and it was boring to me.
Our problems obviously ran deeper than that. He ignored me to feed his addiction to video games (including MtG: Arena), and he lied to me about our sexual compatibility very early on in our relationship.
Well, I wish I could say I walked away shortly after that post. I knew deep down I should have, but I didn't. We stayed together almost 14 months and not only did the situation not improve, it got much worse when he lost his job in early June.
Still though, I loved him and I thought he loved me, so I stayed and tried to remain patient with him. After all, he lost his job and that is an obvious stressor. Then, he got into school an hour from our hometown shortly before our one year anniversary, and it was decided that we would move in together the following month, once I found a job in the big city.
I did that a few weeks ago and i thought things were on track. Exactly one week before I was supposed to start and we were to officially move in together, he got emotionally distant, which he expressed was because of stresses associated with a full-time job and taking night classes, but he never communicated any problems with us. Last Wednesday, he snapped me on the way to work, after ghosting me pretty much the whole day, to let me know he was rethinking our relationship. We didn't get to have a conversation about it for almost an entire day. We talked, he said he needed more time to think and would let me know what he decided on friday, then he called and broke up with me in a 10 second phone call 5 minutes before work that same night.
Like an idiot, I still clung to the idea that I could fix things if only I could show him living together would be fine. He allowed me to stay with him for 2 weeks while I looked for my own place in the city he moved to, and we decided to give it a try. I got up there and realized I hated the city, the job and I could not emotionally handle being around a man who explicitly told me spending time with me felt like an obligation, and his video games (or "chill time") were more important. It just hit me in an inexplicable wave. I left work and sobbed in the parking lot. Then I suddenly knew this man-child was never going to not be selfish, or prioritize anyone over his wants and needs.
I spent the last year being the "cool girlfriend" who didn't rock the boat. I put my needs to the side in order to sustain a relationship that was never going to work. One comment from my OP has remained in my head since I last read it, "I know guys like this, and their fundamental character attribute is selfishness. He shows it by monopolizing your time, and he shows it in the bedroom (or while he?s on his computer and you?re in his bed alone).
This kind of just-okay-enough relationship is going to rot you from the inside out. You?ll slowly feel yourself dying inside as you try to suppress that persistent, panicked realization that this isn?t right, and you deserve happiness. But he can?t give it to you. Get out now, before you sink the next ten unhappy years of your life."
It pretty much hit the nail on the head. I knew things weren't right, but I still tried and my efforts failed. It hurts like hell still, because I do genuinely care for him, but it's for the best. I've moved from the grief and denial stages into anger. I'm angry with him for being so damn selfish and being so bad at communication, but I'm mostly mad at myself for getting into a relationship with someone like him in the first place.
He says we should break up, work on ourselves separately, then try to find our way back to each other, and I thought I wanted that, but again, he is literally never going to change. I, on the other hand, am gonna go have some good sex for a change-with a guy who doesn't treat it as an obligation, I'm gonna reconnect with my friends, and use this learning experience to finally get my own physical and emotional problems under control. I'm not doing it for him, but for myself.
I advise anyone who is dealing with a SO who has an addiction, or incompatible libidos to leave if you try to talk it out and nothing changes. You can't save them, you can only save yourself. Don't be like me. Don't waste a year of your life on a selfish person who only cares about their next fix--be it drugs, alcohol, gambling or a video game addiction. You'll find yourself miserable and alone in your own relationship, and you only have yourself to blame.
Tl;Dr boyfriend was addicted to MtG and video games. He preferred them over me. Our libidos were also mismatched. We broke up and I'm better for it.


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