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I (39f)) am feeling absolutely lost without him (38m) and his kids. (by Sparky)
(29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
I (39f)) am feeling absolutely lost without him (38m) and his kids.
We were together for the past 7 years. He has 4 children that he has joint custody of (9, 12x2, 15). Our home was full and we never had children together. I was completely content.
I quit my job 4 years ago at his request and it really made the most sense. He makes good money and I did not. I helped him with bookkeeping and looking after the house and kids. Our lives were full and busy. I love the kids and we were forever going somewhere, doing something, driving someone someplace or hosting a sleepover, etc.
I ended our relationship (reluctantly, but I knew there was no way I could stay) because I found out he had an affair just before Christmas. The woman ended up stalking him and brought a lot of drama into our lives, including bogus calls to child protective services, calls to his place of employment and various other forms of harassment. He also had an emotional affair 5 years ago at work, so that coupled with this just told me it was time to get out.
It's been 5 months and I'm so lost and empty. I rented a room (using savings) and that's where I live now. I've only started looking for a job the past 2 months but haven't found anything at all. Days stretch out endlessly. Because I was so busy with my life with him and the kids, I really ended up with no friends. My previous friends were mainly co-workers and I didn't stay in touch with them. My only brother moved several states away and since I've been with my partner my parents have died. My family was really my partner's family. I called his mother "mom". Any couple friends we had were his to begin with (and have remained his). It's crazy to have gone from being so busy, surrounded by kids, having money and being "in love" (at least I was) to suddenly being a single middle-aged unemployed woman living in a small room with an old lady as a landlord.
I try going for walks but I really don't want to. Just moving is a huge effort. I know I'm depressed (and my doctor has put me on antidepressants but so far I don't feel much better). How am I supposed to keep going? Any tips??
TLDR: my previous life went up in flames and now I'm completely alone and unemployed and depressed.
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We were together for the past 7 years. He has 4 children that he has joint custody of (9, 12x2, 15). Our home was full and we never had children together. I was completely content.
I quit my job 4 years ago at his request and it really made the most sense. He makes good money and I did not. I helped him with bookkeeping and looking after the house and kids. Our lives were full and busy. I love the kids and we were forever going somewhere, doing something, driving someone someplace or hosting a sleepover, etc.
I ended our relationship (reluctantly, but I knew there was no way I could stay) because I found out he had an affair just before Christmas. The woman ended up stalking him and brought a lot of drama into our lives, including bogus calls to child protective services, calls to his place of employment and various other forms of harassment. He also had an emotional affair 5 years ago at work, so that coupled with this just told me it was time to get out.
It's been 5 months and I'm so lost and empty. I rented a room (using savings) and that's where I live now. I've only started looking for a job the past 2 months but haven't found anything at all. Days stretch out endlessly. Because I was so busy with my life with him and the kids, I really ended up with no friends. My previous friends were mainly co-workers and I didn't stay in touch with them. My only brother moved several states away and since I've been with my partner my parents have died. My family was really my partner's family. I called his mother "mom". Any couple friends we had were his to begin with (and have remained his). It's crazy to have gone from being so busy, surrounded by kids, having money and being "in love" (at least I was) to suddenly being a single middle-aged unemployed woman living in a small room with an old lady as a landlord.
I try going for walks but I really don't want to. Just moving is a huge effort. I know I'm depressed (and my doctor has put me on antidepressants but so far I don't feel much better). How am I supposed to keep going? Any tips??
TLDR: my previous life went up in flames and now I'm completely alone and unemployed and depressed.
Source.
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