Update : My husband is in love with his student. I have no ****ing idea what to do.

Link to previous post ; https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/s/hw3M65WUVH
For those who don?t wanna read the boring details : In short, I have decided to go ahead with the divorce.
Long story: The day I made the post, I met up with Sarah for dinner. I thanked her for telling me about my husband and the student, and also for being such a good friend.
I asked her about my husband. She said there?s nothing unusual. He?s been a bit withdrawn and aloof with everyone lately but that?s about it.
Yesterday I went over to my house unannounced. He was there alone in his office. I told him I wanted to talk. He said he?ll explain everything.
So apparently this woman has had a crush on him since two years; her friends ?ship? her with him. She would stare at him during her rotations and would blush whenever he looked or talked to her. Back then, he didn?t think much of it. Many girls have had crushes on him and he always ignored it.
About 1.5 years back, they were in the same research group thing (I don?t know how this works but there were 5-6 people along with these two). Because of this, they had to spend some time together working, and it was then that he started noticing her. He went into detail about how he was impressed with her intelligence blah blah blah and her beauty blah blah blah. The moment he realised that he had a crush on her, he dropped out of the research thing. This was a year ago.
Few weeks later, she gave him the letter confessing that she has feelings for him. The first thing he told her after reading it was ?you can get into trouble because of this?. She didn?t care. She wanted an answer. ?Is it all in my head? she had asked, to which he replied with ?it?s not just in your head, but nothing can come out of it. I hope you understand.?
That was the last time they interacted. According to him, the ?yearning looks? Sarah described were more of ?awkward eye contacts? than anything else. He told me that even though he is still attracted to her, he has no intention of pursuing any sort of relationship with her regardless whether we stay together or not. He said he?s willing to change his job and go to therapy. I told him to give me sometime to think about it.
To sum up; 1. This has been going on since three years. Not once did he mention anything to me. 2. The student and him spent a considerable amount of time last year working on the research. 3. He told her he liked her back lol. 4. He?s still very much attracted to her
And that?s why I?ve decided to go ahead with a divorce. I don?t think I can trust this man again. And a relationship without trust isn?t something I am interested in. I?ve told my parents about it. They?re not exactly on board but they?re still supportive. I?ve also contacted my lawyer about the same. It?s gonna be a long process, I believe.
That?s it. I believe this is my last update.
TL; DR ; he?s still attracted to her; I won?t ever trust him again. We?re getting a divorce.


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