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Husband wants me to get my own hotel room on vacation (by Sparky)
(29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
Husband wants me to get my own hotel room on vacation
My husband (M34) and I (F34) have been married for 5 years and we are going out of the country for a destination wedding in a few days. Today he told me he wants me to get my own hotel room.
In January my husband moved out. He said he needed some time and space. I don?t think a separation is the way to fix our relationship. The couple that he?s been staying with is the couple that are getting married. Last week I told him I was feeling uncomfortable celebrating the marriage of a couple that isn?t supportive of our marriage. He said they do support us, that?s why they gave him a space to stay. Now he doesn?t want to go on this vacation ?together?. He?s not going to stop me from going, but he doesn?t want to spend time with me and definitely doesn?t want to talk about anything ?about us? while on vacation.
Anyway, the hotel is all-inclusive and the cheapest rooms are $155/night. After taxes and fees, for 6 nights that?s $1000. I feel like that?s an unnecessary extra expense to tack on to a trip we?re leaving for in 2 days.
TDLR: Husband wants me to get my own hotel room on vacation. What do I do?
Edit: I?ve been asked to add some relevant info. Husband and I have discussed boundaries. My brother is going. The bride and groom are my friends too and they still want me there. Husband doesn?t want to discuss our marriage because I often get upset whenever we do.
Edit 2: We separated because I confronted him after finding court documents for a wage garnishment. He had taken out a loan shortly before we got married and decided to not make any payments. (This wasn?t the first time money has been an issue; this was not the first unpaid debt, missing money, giving money to his ex wife, and frivolous spending.) I found the documents in December. He said he didn?t know why he was getting a garnishment. He couldn?t call anyone because he didn?t have time while working nights. I called the debt collector to find out the details. We got into an argument and he left that night.
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My husband (M34) and I (F34) have been married for 5 years and we are going out of the country for a destination wedding in a few days. Today he told me he wants me to get my own hotel room.
In January my husband moved out. He said he needed some time and space. I don?t think a separation is the way to fix our relationship. The couple that he?s been staying with is the couple that are getting married. Last week I told him I was feeling uncomfortable celebrating the marriage of a couple that isn?t supportive of our marriage. He said they do support us, that?s why they gave him a space to stay. Now he doesn?t want to go on this vacation ?together?. He?s not going to stop me from going, but he doesn?t want to spend time with me and definitely doesn?t want to talk about anything ?about us? while on vacation.
Anyway, the hotel is all-inclusive and the cheapest rooms are $155/night. After taxes and fees, for 6 nights that?s $1000. I feel like that?s an unnecessary extra expense to tack on to a trip we?re leaving for in 2 days.
TDLR: Husband wants me to get my own hotel room on vacation. What do I do?
Edit: I?ve been asked to add some relevant info. Husband and I have discussed boundaries. My brother is going. The bride and groom are my friends too and they still want me there. Husband doesn?t want to discuss our marriage because I often get upset whenever we do.
Edit 2: We separated because I confronted him after finding court documents for a wage garnishment. He had taken out a loan shortly before we got married and decided to not make any payments. (This wasn?t the first time money has been an issue; this was not the first unpaid debt, missing money, giving money to his ex wife, and frivolous spending.) I found the documents in December. He said he didn?t know why he was getting a garnishment. He couldn?t call anyone because he didn?t have time while working nights. I called the debt collector to find out the details. We got into an argument and he left that night.
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