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UPDATE: I [26F] just dropped a lot of money on my boyfriend's [30M] Christmas present (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
23-Mar-20 2:00 am
UPDATE: I [26F] just dropped a lot of money on my boyfriend's [30M] Christmas present

(TL;DR at the bottom.) I posted in November that I had spent $900 on a Christmas gift for my boyfriend of 2 months. It was a dinosaur fossil, something we both would appreciate. I was in love, I was excited, and I knew it was probably a bad idea but I didn't think I'd have any regrets. I got plenty of advice to return it or hang on to it until an anniversary. I weighed my options and proceeded to ignore all of it because, y'know, young and in love and dumb.
Well, a few days later (before the gift arrived) I ended up in the hospital because of a mental health crisis. When I was in the ER, I phoned him to let him know 1) where I was and 2) that I might have my phone taken away. I could hear in his voice that he was quite taken aback and didn't really know what to say.
I was transferred to another hospital 30 minutes away and held in the hospital's custody for 72 hours. I knew in my mind that any normal person would be spooked if their brand-new girlfriend had a nervous breakdown that needed hospitalization. When he asked to come visit on the 2nd day, I was surprised. He bought me a book that he thought I would like and brought his favourite sweater because "when I'm not feeling well this sweater makes me feel cozy". I cried when he left that night because I was so touched.
All in all, I was in the hospital for 9 days. I was blown away; he didn't seem to care very much that I had mental health issues, he liked me regardless. The fossil arrived during this time, so as soon as I got home I rushed it over to his apartment. I felt he deserved to have it a little early. He loved it so much he got a little teary-eyed. It sits on his bookshelf.
Over the next months, I learned that my reckless decisions (including spending almost a thousand dollars on a Christmas gift for someone I was dating for 8 weeks LOL...) were prompted by a personality disorder. I'm still on a sick leave from work while I recover. My boyfriend has been so supportive every step of the way. I moved into his apartment two weeks ago. (Which doesn't change much because I was here all the time anyway.)
My birthday is coming up and he wants to take me on a trip to Newfoundland where we would sit by the ocean, drink, hike, and hopefully see some moose and whales. When I said that's WAY too big of a gift, he said, "You bought me a f*cking dinosaur fossil. You don't get to pull rank here." So when COVID-19 settles down, we'll be on a road trip :)
TL;DR I spent a ridiculous amount of money on a gift for a new relationship because I was extremely invested and kinda crazy. It turns out he deserved it, and we're now living together and happy as ever.


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