My (36M) wife (34F) gave up a high paying, high stress job for a lower paying job that she enjoys. Now she feels like she doesn?t ?contribute? enough in our relationship. How can I help her get past this?

My wife (34F) and I (36M) have been together for 5 years, married for 3, and have no children. For our first few years together, she was a full time attorney working 50-60 hours per week. At that time, her income was approximately 40% higher than mine. The income disparity did not bother me at all (I mean, who doesn?t like more money? hah!), but neither of us was happy about the amount of hours she had to spend at work. When we met, she was already pretty burnt out and unhappy with the stressful job. I tried my best to be supportive and encourage her to look for other jobs that would be less stressful. She was open to it, but knew it would be a big pay cut. She said she would rather stick it out for a while longer so we could pay off her student loans and save money for a new house.
Once the loans were gone and we had moved into our new home, she found a part-time (~15 hrs/wk) job working from home doing something more in line with her interests. Her stress level went way down, and so did her income. She still makes very good money, but her income is about a third of her previous job. This is absolutely not a problem financially. My income has steadily increased and she?s still bringing in plenty. We are doing great and have no money problems. I have no regrets about any of it.
The thing is, every once in a while, she?ll mention that she feels sad that she doesn?t ?contribute? because her income is so much lower than mine. I tell her this is absolutely not true. Not only does she still have great income, but she contributes in so many other ways. Since she has a very flexible work schedule, she is able to do most of the household chores, takes care of errands during the day, does a lot of the shopping, etc. She basically keeps our household running. But I think in her mind, the work she does for our household does not make up for the loss in income.
She recently found out we are eligible for health insurance through one of her attorney organization memberships. She sent me the details, but it turned out that our current plan we have through my job is still a better deal. I texted her and said I looked into it but we should stick with what we have. When I got home from work, I could tell she was feeling down. She told me she had gotten excited at the possibility that we could use something through her work and that she would be providing something major. She was crushed when I told her we shouldn?t use it. I felt terrible?
I?m sure part of the problem is that when we met, she was independent and doing very well on her own. I think she now feels like she has become dependent on my income, and that makes her feel bad. Also, she went from working 60 hours/week to around 15. So she has much more extra time to enjoy life, but I think she feels guilty about it. I?ve told her many times that the money is not important to me, she contributes so much more than a paycheck, and I?m much happier now that we can spend more time together. I think she understands that, but she is still hard on herself about it. She?s not a money-grubbing person, but she has said she often thinks about all the money she has given up by quitting her high paying job and how much better off we would be financially if she stayed there. But, luckily, she remembers how awful the work was and knows she does not want to go back to such a stressful job.
I was wondering if anyone might have some advice on how I can make her feel better about her contributions to our relationship. She knows that I?m so much happier with our current situation, but she still has issues with it internally. I don?t know what else to do other than to keep telling her how much better things are now, even with less income. If anyone has experienced this (on either side), I?d love to hear how you dealt with it.
Thank you!
TLDR: My wife?s income decreased quite a bit. While we are doing fine financially, she said she often feels sad that she doesn?t contribute as much anymore and feels that she has become dependent on me. I?m looking for advice on how to convince her that she contributes more than her fair share.


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