Here is a thought: We spend years in school......but who learns about relationships, people skills, how to get along, selflessness, etc?

Do you continue to learn how to have relationships of any or all types?

What do you do toward that goal?

I have personally read lots of books, asked for advice, etc...but continue to interact and learn from everyone I have a relationship with.

You first start learning how to do those as a child from interactions with your parents...and how they treat each other....and other people IMO


Yes, for better or worse.....

The goal of better relationships? Well.....I first make sure Im in a good place and happy just being me..even if Im alone......and then I wld hope to find someone that compliments my life and makes it better.....and vice versa. Im a firm believer that you cant have a good relationship if your not happy and content to begin with....and that, Ive had to learn the hard way l....maybe a lil off topic but I rambled lol



No books for me..but I have learned from past experiences, watching others relationships, etc....

All very good points. I have found many people in younger age brackets don't view a learning process even possible or worth pursuing, and they come from broken homes. I think learning is a responsibility in this area one way or another as we affect others.

I think for those of us who are older, we may have a different perspective then what we see now being represented.

Heres to us old farts lol!

We are all kinda screwed. Little boys are taught to be protecters and providers and carry on the family name, and little girls are taught to be complete by being married and a mother. We are focused on a life with someone. But we are complete when we are born and we should focus on our own life. That being said. I learn everyday, if it was great or if it sucked. Either way everything is a chance to learn.

@WalkSoftly:
Ok....i did a "cheers" but it was male and female.

oh well.

@R1H0: No worries....saw that one myself.....so I made my own

Do you continue to learn how to have relationships of any or all types?

Yes...it is continous. I learn what is expected of me and vice versa through time...

What do you do toward that goal?

Goal of a good relationship? I try to not expect more from someone than I'm willing to give. And I'm at an age where I can pick who I want in my life without having to answer to someone, I have nothing to prove and I am not obligated to put a label on anything . I can change my mind too.

You get an F-! Ha! J/k!!

@SweetNothings:

Sounds good. I know what you mean, but I tried to have a relationship with someone so fiercely independent that she was a habitual liar....admittedly so...and denied answering to anyone on anything. Therefore her relationships couldn't exist with even acquaintances or doctors.

There is always a balance in every relationship of roles and who answers to whom on what issue. I think that point is ignored and causes the 65% divorce rate.