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I (35F) haven?t seen my best friend (36M) since he met his wife 2 years ago (by Sparky)
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I (35F) haven?t seen my best friend (36M) since he met his wife 2 years ago
My (35F) best friend (36M) met his now-wife 2 years ago and I haven?t seen him since. Immediately prior to him meeting her, we were very close. We talked and texted regularly and saw each other all the time. Despite being opposite gender heterosexuals there was never anything between us beyond being close friends (and we also both had a lot of other opposite gender friends).
As soon as he met her, I stopped hearing from him. At the beginning I thought it was understandable but after a few months started to wonder why he didn?t want me to meet her. I would text him periodically to see how things were going and then one day he casually mentioned that they were wedding planning. I responded with something along the lines of ?you?re engaged?!?? and he sent me their engagement photos. I was not invited to the wedding which was a year ago. He did send me a few photos but all were of just them, so I don?t actually know how big the wedding was but I do know that none of our mutual friends were invited either (we met in college and have a large group of mutual friends).
A year later I still haven?t met her. I have asked him repeatedly to get together and he always gives me wishy-washy responses like ?things are crazy right now let me get back to you in a few weeks? or ?let me check and I?ll get back to you? and he never does. He has done this to our entire friend group which contains people in all walks of life: men, women, married, single, divorced, parents, non-parents. He?s ghosted all of them. So I don?t think it?s something like ?his wife doesn?t want him having female friends? because he?s ghosted his male friends too.
I need advice on what to do. I feel like I could take the hint and move on, I could call him out on it, or I could just continue reaching out and asking to make plans in the hope that one day he?ll find time for me. Any suggestions? Anyone been through something similar?
TL/DR: I haven?t seen my best friend since he met his wife and I?m not sure what to do about it
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My (35F) best friend (36M) met his now-wife 2 years ago and I haven?t seen him since. Immediately prior to him meeting her, we were very close. We talked and texted regularly and saw each other all the time. Despite being opposite gender heterosexuals there was never anything between us beyond being close friends (and we also both had a lot of other opposite gender friends).
As soon as he met her, I stopped hearing from him. At the beginning I thought it was understandable but after a few months started to wonder why he didn?t want me to meet her. I would text him periodically to see how things were going and then one day he casually mentioned that they were wedding planning. I responded with something along the lines of ?you?re engaged?!?? and he sent me their engagement photos. I was not invited to the wedding which was a year ago. He did send me a few photos but all were of just them, so I don?t actually know how big the wedding was but I do know that none of our mutual friends were invited either (we met in college and have a large group of mutual friends).
A year later I still haven?t met her. I have asked him repeatedly to get together and he always gives me wishy-washy responses like ?things are crazy right now let me get back to you in a few weeks? or ?let me check and I?ll get back to you? and he never does. He has done this to our entire friend group which contains people in all walks of life: men, women, married, single, divorced, parents, non-parents. He?s ghosted all of them. So I don?t think it?s something like ?his wife doesn?t want him having female friends? because he?s ghosted his male friends too.
I need advice on what to do. I feel like I could take the hint and move on, I could call him out on it, or I could just continue reaching out and asking to make plans in the hope that one day he?ll find time for me. Any suggestions? Anyone been through something similar?
TL/DR: I haven?t seen my best friend since he met his wife and I?m not sure what to do about it
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